Monday, March 21, 2011

The Bachelor Comes to an End...

For those of you that watch The Bachelor and missed this week's episode, don't read any further.

Similar to my own predictions, Brad chose the sweet and beautiful Emily Maynard to be his wife. There was no surprise there, since he was confessing his interest in her from the very beginning. The question is: will the infatuation last? It is hard to say with reality television couples, but considering the success rates, there is a slim chance.

So what have we learned? What does it actually take to find "true love" on reality television?
First, you must have a "real" connection. Brad could not stress it more about how important it was to see a woman as his wife after the show.
Second, it is important to remain confident, but at the same time not becoming overly aggressive.
Third, communication is essential. If there is any confusion between two people, clear it up right away. It could ultimately lead to devastaion in the relationship.
Fourth, do not make enemies. By making enemies, you will cause drama on the show, which will inevitably result in negative energy between you and the bachelor.
For the next few weeks, I will be keeping tabs on the new couple to see if their relationship can withstand reality. Feel free to provide updates on my blog if you happen to read about the newly engaged couple.

Friday, March 11, 2011

The Women Share Their Experiences...

And did they ever. This week on The Bachelor, the past contestants joined host, Chris Harrison to share their experiences on the show. These experiences included everything from off-camera footage to drama that ensued within the house. 

The highlight of the tell-all show for me was to see the women confront the controversial, and over-confident Michelle Money. It seemed after they all watched the episodes after their experiences on The Bachelor were over, they had some issue with the way Michelle talked about them to the camera (a side of her they did not see before). There was even a point during the attack from the women that Michelle got to the point where she was crying so hard that she couldn't breathe. Her defense: her attitude was merely a reflection of her sarcastic sense of humour, and they obviously misinterpreted her. I actually began to feel sorry for her at points. And yes, even though I have disagreed with her attitude in previous posts, I come to realize that television tends to inflate a slight negative characteristic such as sarcasm for entertainment purposes. When Chris brought Brad onto the stage and asked him if Michelle's over-confidence and sarcasm turned him off in any way, he actually defended her by saying that her confidence was endearing and she "had game." Kudos to Michelle for being aggressive enough to be considered top-notch in her game. Brad may be defending her just because he feels sorry for her, however, he really seemed genuine in her defense. Maybe she wasn't so bad after all... 
Check out this clip and make your own interpretation. It is 14 minutes, but trust me, it is intense. 
The second highlight of the night: Ashley Hebert's new 'do. Could this be a potential image booster for when she starts filming for the next season of The Bachelorette? 
For those who of you who do not watch The Bachelor because you fail to see any sort of entertainment in the show, watch the last hour next week between 9p.m. and 10p.m. It is the season finale where Brad will choose the woman who he wants to marry. Corny, I know, but the episode will epitomize what reality TV love is all about. It will also give you something to talk about the next day. 
Hint: Men, if you want a good conversation starter, watch it! 

Thursday, March 3, 2011

Communication is Key

Communication is essential in every aspect of life. I've learned that lack of communication can really hinder a person, a relationship, or a company. That's why so many companies have people that are paid to communicate on the company's behalf.

Now how does this relate to The Bachelor? For those of you that tuned in to this past week's episode where Brad took the women on overnight dates, there was definitely a lack of communication. This inevitably ruined a potential opportunity that he could have had with the cute and bubbly Ashley H. She has always felt insecure with their relationship and has continued to use words in past episodes that define herself as "disconnected" from him. 

In this episode, however, Ashley assures Brad that she wants what's best for him, which I think was a huge step for her. That irritates him because he wants what's best for both of them. Now I'm confused. Doesn't the whole concept of the show surround what Brad is looking for, and what ultimately makes him happy. He talks about compromise, but it seems that he will  expect that the woman he chooses will whole- heartedly move to Austin, Texas to be with him, regardless of where they live. This is evident when he confronts Ashley by saying that when they had a conversation earlier in the date about where she wanted to live, she not once said that she would want to live in Austin. I think that Ashley was really trying to open up to the situation, and Brad took it completely the wrong way. This resulted in tension for the rest of the night, which ruined the relationship that they could have had. 

Ineffective communication, according to Phil Rich, author of Self-Help Magazine, is off base meaning that responses and needs of others are misunderstood and misinterpreted. Ding Ding Ding. This is what ultimately ruined any chance they had together. 

I posted a video of the events that led to Brad and Ashley's destruction. Feel free to share your thoughts. 

-Real(ity) Love Critic

Monday, February 21, 2011

Committing to the Bachelor

Throughout the series, there is an ongoing conversation between the bachelor and the contestants about commitment. It seems to me that there is an off -balance understanding of commitment. Let's take a look at this checklist developed by relationship expert, David Steele, defining what it means to NOT be in a committed relationship... 
1. Your partner is not aware your relationship is committed 4
2. You are wondering if this relationship is committed  4
3. You and your partner have differences of opinion about the status of your relationship 4
4. Your family and friends have different perceptions about the status of your relationship 4
5. You and your partner have not acted to explicitly formalize your commitment in some way 4
6. You are relying on verbal promises without a significant track record of them being kept 4

In The Bachelor, there is this sense of ambiguity, as bachelor, Brad Womack cannot actually tell the women how he feels about them. Yes, he can tell them he likes them, but how much is that actually worth when they are confessing their love for him, and at the same time he is sharing the same experiences with other women. In the real world, this would definitely NOT be considered a committed and healthy relationship, but this is national television, after all. Take a look at last week's episode as Chantal O. has a breakdown over this issue around the 7:50 mark. 

-Real(ity) Love Critic

Wednesday, February 16, 2011

Michelle Speaks Out

After being kicked off The Bachelor, Michelle Money tells her side of the story.

- Real(ity) Love Critic

Saturday, February 12, 2011

Be Aggressive, B-E Aggressive... Or Not..

When it comes to finding love on The Bachelor, a woman must stand out from the rest because, let's be serious, they are competing with at least 10 other equally attractive and intelligent women. In this week's episode of The Bachelor, the women were slightly more aggressive than normal. Maybe it was the pressure...perhaps it was potential insecurities... who knows.
This week's aggressor of the week goes to none other than Michelle Money who visited bachelor, Brad Womack's room unannounced. Not only did she show up at his room, but she proceeded to ruin the evening that could have otherwise been romantic by dishing out her personal opinions about the rest of the women in the house. Trust me, they were not positive opinions by any means.
Check out this week's, or should I say this season's aggressive woman...

Sharon Stone in Basic Instinct
Michelle Pfeiffer as Catwoman

You would think these women would read up a little about what men really want. 
If they couldn't find love outside of this TV show, they must be doing something wrong.

I think Michelle's taking too many pointers from classic aggressive women...
Jane Lynch as Sue Sylvester in Glee
Kate Gosselin

According to a study by Kenneth MacLean, men like women who are feminine without being overly aggressive. A little aggression is acceptable, however too much will send a man running. 
So ladies, *ahem*, Michelle Money,  if you think that being overly aggressive is attractive, think again. I predict she will be the next one Brad will say goodbye to. What do you think?

-Real(ity) Love Critic

Monday, February 7, 2011

A Weekly Tradition

I'm sure we all have our weekly traditions that have almost become habitual. Yes, I am honest even to say that watching The Bachelor has become a weekly tradition that I actually look forward to. Around 7p.m. every Monday, I find myself scrambling to finish my homework; making sure that popcorn is at an easy reach and wine is cooling in the fridge; and my house is somewhat presentable for my friend who comes over to watch it with me. Pathetic, I know, but we all have guilty pleasures, right?

Does anyone else have a weekly tradition surrounding The Bachelor as I do? Please share...

- Real(ity) Love Critic